{"topic":{"id":4062,"title":"怎么才能学会交朋友呢？","slug":"topic","userId":507,"categoryId":14,"createdAt":"2023-07-13 17:10:19.147167","bumpedAt":"2023-12-28 11:45:14.594738","views":789,"postsCount":18,"highestPostNumber":19,"likeCount":16,"closed":false,"pinned":false,"pinnedGlobally":false,"pinnedAt":null,"pinnedUntil":null,"isBanner":false,"excerpt":"从小到大除了同学，几乎没有交到过别的朋友（网友除外），现实生活里该怎么去认识陌生人并且交朋友呢？","deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"isPrivate":false,"isMembersOnly":false,"category":{"id":14,"name":"问答","slug":"qa","color":"f5c211"},"author":{"id":507,"username":"Juzihai","name":"橘子海","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/2b/da/2bdae3083847447fb3d5e97b6ee2b2c805081b7d6eaf69651901ad56462053dc.avif"},"realAuthor":{"id":507,"username":"Juzihai","name":"橘子海","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/2b/da/2bdae3083847447fb3d5e97b6ee2b2c805081b7d6eaf69651901ad56462053dc.avif"},"tags":["friends"]},"posts":[{"id":6898,"postNumber":1,"raw":"从小到大除了同学，几乎没有交到过别的朋友（网友除外），现实生活里该怎么去认识陌生人并且交朋友呢？","cooked":"

从小到大除了同学，几乎没有交到过别的朋友（网友除外），现实生活里该怎么去认识陌生人并且交朋友呢？

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有交集才有朋友，你首先要和 {现实生活} 有交集，才能和 {现实生活中的人} 有交集

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感觉主要是要有多种“非虚拟”的爱好。。。。感觉这一点我也做得不好。。。。

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我的朋友除了同学外基本都是先在网上认识的😇

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我甚至连同学都是先在网上认识的 🤣

\n","createdAt":"2023-07-14 02:09:33.297762","updatedAt":"2023-07-14 02:09:43.337097","replyToPostNumber":4,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":1,"wordCount":16,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":1,"users":[{"id":3052,"username":"anon13700884","name":null}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":176,"username":"TouhouSumi","name":"东方澄","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/0d/b8/0db83d4f9eb036fd09a9c3d520a6e0e7856751d1740332b9e45aa503d39dabed.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":6931,"postNumber":6,"raw":"共同经历是能交到朋友重要途径。共同经历可以多种多样，包括一起做一个比赛，在一个班等等。据我的观察，如果有一项体育爱好，通过体育爱好认识朋友的概率会很高 (周围喜欢足球/篮球的大哥都可以成群结队)，可惜我也没有擅长的运动项目，没能亲身实践:face_with_monocle:正在试图努力","cooked":"

共同经历是能交到朋友重要途径。共同经历可以多种多样，包括一起做一个比赛，在一个班等等。据我的观察，如果有一项体育爱好，通过体育爱好认识朋友的概率会很高 (周围喜欢足球/篮球的大哥都可以成群结队)，可惜我也没有擅长的运动项目，没能亲身实践🧐正在试图努力

\n","createdAt":"2023-07-14 09:47:17.488288","updatedAt":"2023-07-14 09:47:17.488288","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":0,"likeCount":1,"wordCount":123,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":1,"users":[{"id":1047,"username":"anonymous_coward_old","name":"Anonymous Coward Old"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":307,"username":"Fast","name":null,"avatarUrl":null,"admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":6935,"postNumber":7,"raw":"学习交朋友是一项重要的社交技能，对于我们的生活和工作都有着重要的影响。以下是一些可供参考的建议：\n\n1. **积极参加社交活动**：加入各种社团、兴趣小组，参加各种线下活动，如读书会、义工活动、运动俱乐部等。在这样的活动中，你可以遇到许多有相似兴趣的人，与他们交流和互动，这有助于结识新朋友。\n2. **开放心态，积极对待新的人和事物**：对陌生人保持友好和热情的态度，不要因为害怕被拒绝或者害怕尴尬就不敢去接触别人。同时，也要学会尊重别人的不同观点和生活方式，对他人保持开放的态度。\n3. **学习有效的沟通技巧**：掌握良好的听说能力，包括倾听他人，分享自己的想法，保持良好的眼神接触，使用肢体语言等。这可以帮助你更好地与他人建立联系和理解。\n4. **展示你的独特之处**：每个人都有自己独特的地方，这可能是你的技能、兴趣爱好、经验等。这些都是你吸引他人、与他人建立联系的资本。别害怕展示真实的自我，你的独特之处会吸引对你感兴趣的人。\n5. **持之以恒**：建立新的友情需要时间，不要因为一开始的尴尬或者困难就放弃。持续的尝试和付出，会让你在社交中获取更多的经验和技巧，从而更好地建立新的朋友关系。\n\n记住，每个人都有自己独特的方式去交朋友，找到适合自己的方式是最重要的。尝试不同的方法，发现最适合你的交友方式，这会使你在交友的路上更加自信和从容。","cooked":"

学习交朋友是一项重要的社交技能，对于我们的生活和工作都有着重要的影响。以下是一些可供参考的建议：

积极参加社交活动：加入各种社团、兴趣小组，参加各种线下活动，如读书会、义工活动、运动俱乐部等。在这样的活动中，你可以遇到许多有相似兴趣的人，与他们交流和互动，这有助于结识新朋友。
开放心态，积极对待新的人和事物：对陌生人保持友好和热情的态度，不要因为害怕被拒绝或者害怕尴尬就不敢去接触别人。同时，也要学会尊重别人的不同观点和生活方式，对他人保持开放的态度。
学习有效的沟通技巧：掌握良好的听说能力，包括倾听他人，分享自己的想法，保持良好的眼神接触，使用肢体语言等。这可以帮助你更好地与他人建立联系和理解。
展示你的独特之处：每个人都有自己独特的地方，这可能是你的技能、兴趣爱好、经验等。这些都是你吸引他人、与他人建立联系的资本。别害怕展示真实的自我，你的独特之处会吸引对你感兴趣的人。
持之以恒：建立新的友情需要时间，不要因为一开始的尴尬或者困难就放弃。持续的尝试和付出，会让你在社交中获取更多的经验和技巧，从而更好地建立新的朋友关系。

记住，每个人都有自己独特的方式去交朋友，找到适合自己的方式是最重要的。尝试不同的方法，发现最适合你的交友方式，这会使你在交友的路上更加自信和从容。

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你咋把我告诉你的发出来了

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网友线下见面就变成现实朋友了。

网络不就是拉近了人与人之间的距离吗？能越过空间时间的限制，结识志趣相投的朋友，多好的事。

不过也要注意不能失去与人面对面交流的能力。我说网友必须线下见面才能变成现实朋友也是因为此。文字所能表达的是极其有限的，只有面对面才能得到心对心的交流。心对心交流过后，你才能确定你是否要和这个活生生的人交朋友，而不是和他在网上所套的马甲。

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🤩和我之前思考的一摸一样，要去探索并发现交集。交流是实现友谊的必要条件。

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首先得多创造机会吧，其次机会来了你也得抓住。再次我觉得志趣相投是一个必要条件。

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什么是朋友？

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也许变 e 一点？就是为人外向一些，愿意去关注一下别人在干什么。比如说我的一个朋友就是我主动搭话认识的，因为当时她在整一个什么东西，我就主动帮了个忙。

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你觉得你在帮忙，某些人会觉得你是没事找事做

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啊，那可能就证明我们不是一路人，不过也不会怎么样吧

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you've wasted you life, and will possibly ruin your life

\n","createdAt":"2023-12-27 16:50:56.763112","updatedAt":"2023-12-27 16:50:56.763112","replyToPostNumber":16,"replyCount":1,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":10,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":true,"user":{"id":2191,"username":"anonymous","name":null,"avatarUrl":null,"admin":false,"moderator":false}},{"id":20655,"postNumber":18,"raw":"好吧，我确实有时候有点多管闲事（？），在尽力遏制了。不过浪费倒也说不上，如果真的可以帮到别人，我倒是会挺高兴的。而且我说的这个其实是我同班同学啦，只是之前没说过话，不太熟。","cooked":"

好吧，我确实有时候有点多管闲事（？），在尽力遏制了。不过浪费倒也说不上，如果真的可以帮到别人，我倒是会挺高兴的。而且我说的这个其实是我同班同学啦，只是之前没说过话，不太熟。

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和生活环境有关咯
\n如果你的三次元环境有很多兴趣相投的人，那么交到朋友非常顺理成章
\n反之，就是网友居多咯
\n重点可能在于《主动展示成分和查别人成分》，以及踏出第一步咯

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