{"topic":{"id":13700,"title":"下头男与纯爱男与现实伴侣","slug":"topic","userId":4668,"categoryId":4,"createdAt":"2024-10-15 16:59:32.983605","bumpedAt":"2024-10-29 07:50:47.423092","views":743,"postsCount":26,"highestPostNumber":31,"likeCount":24,"closed":false,"pinned":false,"pinnedGlobally":false,"pinnedAt":null,"pinnedUntil":null,"isBanner":false,"excerpt":"基于我自身多年的身边统计学，似乎得出了这一结论：行为较为下头（如多发言语骚扰、同时与多位异性保持联系，甚至脚踏多条肉体关系）的朋友们似乎更容易得到伴侣，而追求纯爱（该群体多为二次元）的朋友们则更难获得对象，即使其中有一些被我认为可以让伴侣非常幸福。我很好奇这里的原因，也希望帮助我的那些纯爱党朋友们，想听听大家的看法","deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"isPrivate":false,"isMembersOnly":false,"category":{"id":4,"name":"谈笑风生","slug":"general","color":"25AAE2"},"author":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":null},"realAuthor":{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null,"avatarUrl":null},"tags":[]},"posts":[{"id":41660,"postNumber":1,"raw":"基于我自身多年的身边统计学，似乎得出了这一结论：行为较为下头（如多发言语骚扰、同时与多位异性保持联系，甚至脚踏多条肉体关系）的朋友们似乎更容易得到伴侣，而追求纯爱（该群体多为二次元）的朋友们则更难获得对象，即使其中有一些被我认为可以让伴侣非常幸福。\n我很好奇这里的原因，也希望帮助我的那些纯爱党朋友们，想听听大家的看法","cooked":"

基于我自身多年的身边统计学，似乎得出了这一结论：行为较为下头（如多发言语骚扰、同时与多位异性保持联系，甚至脚踏多条肉体关系）的朋友们似乎更容易得到伴侣，而追求纯爱（该群体多为二次元）的朋友们则更难获得对象，即使其中有一些被我认为可以让伴侣非常幸福。
\n我很好奇这里的原因，也希望帮助我的那些纯爱党朋友们，想听听大家的看法

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但纯爱人伴侣看着更舒服，甜的掉牙

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大约怎么认识异性是一道坎，太多方法会被纯爱哥们认为是“下头的”“过于有目的性的于是不去用，但是我也不知道怎么不下头地认识异性🤣

\n","createdAt":"2024-10-16 00:34:56.35173","updatedAt":"2024-10-16 00:34:56.35173","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":1,"likeCount":3,"wordCount":62,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"plus1","count":3,"users":[{"id":30,"username":"一只玉米人","name":"玉米🌽"},{"id":200,"username":"Srotseiticar","name":null},{"id":5657,"username":"CR-V","name":null}],"hasReacted":false},{"reaction":"❤️","count":3,"users":[{"id":30,"username":"一只玉米人","name":"玉米🌽"},{"id":200,"username":"Srotseiticar","name":null},{"id":4668,"username":"IO","name":null}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":151,"username":"Rin","name":"Tomotake Rin","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/dd/40/dd40df04070180d25dc835b8f1ad472ded596141699d602ec04ff13e27375bd9.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"无所谓，热带风味 :woman_gesturing_no:","signatureCooked":"

无所谓，热带风味 🙅‍♀️

\n"}},{"id":41676,"postNumber":6,"raw":"https://xjtu.app/t/topic/13692/9\n虽然我也是二次元（叠甲），但是至少应该控制变量法。比如： **与前者除去话术/生活作风外，各条件相同的后者** 。如果是拿 [spoiler] 纯情大飞煮 [/spoiler] 和网图级别的海王来放一起比较，那真没啥可比性😭\n所以我要减肥去了👋🏻\n\n最后，希望纯爱战神都能被世界温柔以待🥺","cooked":"\n虽然我也是二次元（叠甲），但是至少应该控制变量法。比如： **与前者除去话术/生活作风外，各条件相同的后者** 。如果是拿纯情大飞煮和网图级别的海王来放一起比较，那真没啥可比性😭\n所以我要减肥去了👋🏻\n

最后，希望纯爱战神都能被世界温柔以待🥺

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年月擦身过，暂且问，会更好吗？

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1.楼主身边都是什么成分？
\n2.下头行为是否被伴侣知晓？
\n3.纯爱和行为下头一定矛盾吗？

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看目的性咯，多线程攻略我觉得是有问题的行为

效率很高但有道德嫌疑
\n我这种感觉的来源可能来自于 gal 一次只能推一条 🤣

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无所谓，热带风味 🙅‍♀️

\n"}},{"id":41682,"postNumber":10,"raw":"典型的只看统计数据忽略因果关系，外加短视。\n真实的因果：海王搞的女的多了→海王知道怎么调动女性情绪、更懂两性博弈→更能提供良好的恋爱体验→更能收获恋爱经历\n纯情二次元长期活在二次元里→和真实的人交流能力有限→不会控制和有效表达自己的情感→屡屡恋爱受挫\n海王最终大概率 end up with 鱼找鱼，虾找虾。","cooked":"

典型的只看统计数据忽略因果关系，外加短视。
\n真实的因果：海王搞的女的多了→海王知道怎么调动女性情绪、更懂两性博弈→更能提供良好的恋爱体验→更能收获恋爱经历
\n纯情二次元长期活在二次元里→和真实的人交流能力有限→不会控制和有效表达自己的情感→屡屡恋爱受挫
\n海王最终大概率 end up with 鱼找鱼，虾找虾。

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统计数据起码得有十几个才有得出可靠结论的可能性，反思一下你是怎么认识这么多海王的，为什么我一个都没见过呢

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奇奇怪怪的问题充满 incel 意淫感

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二次元群体不见得纯爱，大部分就是一群只能赛博认妈新番一出立马换个老婆的肥宅而已，正常和异性交流都做不到更谈什么谈恋爱。从我身边的统计样本来看，找到对象的除了极个别下头男其他的全部都是纯爱战神。

\n","createdAt":"2024-10-16 02:06:04.673369","updatedAt":"2024-10-16 02:06:04.673369","replyToPostNumber":null,"replyCount":1,"likeCount":3,"wordCount":96,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[{"reaction":"❤️","count":2,"users":[{"id":346,"username":"hoist","name":null},{"id":1929,"username":"Quit","name":"Qwen"}],"hasReacted":false}],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":3323,"username":"csranking2022","name":"void","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/ce/3e/ce3e9a757f80fbffa390f56dde39a2858deb338750799abd7b95dacb0f23bd26.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":null,"signatureCooked":null}},{"id":41690,"postNumber":15,"raw":"要真说问题中的原因，下头男所谓的“伴侣”多的原因只有一个，菜就多练。长期钓鱼钓的多了自然有一套方法。但这些手段压根不需要当什么海王，成长过程中保持和异性的正常交流差不多就能知道交往的分寸，遇到喜欢的人再用成长中交流的经验呵护自然手到擒来，这也是我身边有对象的全是纯爱战神的原因，无他，幸运地拥有一个并不性压抑的童年。","cooked":"

要真说问题中的原因，下头男所谓的“伴侣”多的原因只有一个，菜就多练。长期钓鱼钓的多了自然有一套方法。但这些手段压根不需要当什么海王，成长过程中保持和异性的正常交流差不多就能知道交往的分寸，遇到喜欢的人再用成长中交流的经验呵护自然手到擒来，这也是我身边有对象的全是纯爱战神的原因，无他，幸运地拥有一个并不性压抑的童年。

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不同人对同一个词赋予的意义是不一样的，你觉得的“下头”，对于别人来说可能就是完全相反的意思。
\n怎么想也理解不了什么是纯爱战士，只能成为憎恨幸福和劣等感过强的怪物。

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我想国外的朋友是理解不了这一点有啥异常的。楼主是不是中学时候就被学校成功洗脑自动扮演“抓早恋”的角色并且保持到现在了，看到男女交流就觉得是调情是吧，属于是性缘脑过剩

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同时与多位异性保持联系
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希望稳定纯爱，需要对异性有足够的感知力，但如果缺少与异性的沟通策略经验，那必然是不太可能的。

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我看你就挺下头的，你有几个女友？

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我来借楼咨询一个问题：

假如我因为某些机缘巧合，认识了某个女生并对她有好感，而她可能 (1. 不认识我 | 2. 认识我但没什么交集不熟)，我想跟她进一步接触，以（1. 明确她是否已经有对象 2. 提高我们俩之间的 intimacy level 3. 了解是否应该和她进一步发展关系 4. 决定是否可以与她结婚），我该怎样以不失体面和不让双方感到尴尬的方式实现？

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还不认识就能考虑到结婚。。。

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决定是否可以与她结婚
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这个看似纯爱实则下头，有种把人用一种枷锁绑架的感觉

我和对象谈了 4 年才确定要结婚，现在 6 年了才准备领证

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还不认识就能考虑到结婚。。。
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谢谢你，我的目的很纯粹，寻找另一半，但就是这份自己看来的单纯其实是不讨好别人的。
\n不过假如人又抱着玩玩的态度，又能走到一块去吗？

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所言即是，控制欲很强但又自己不自知，固执、钻牛角尖，这种人适合去信仰宗教。

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除了相亲，见面只为了寻找结婚对象是很下头 $\":a_grinning_face_with_sweat:\"$

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