女性は一生何を恐れているのか

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Born to Die

”I didn’t give birth to a boy; blame my own womb for being weak.”
“If it’s a boy, keep it; if it’s a girl, abort it.”
”My grandmother almost killed me back then.”
”If you have a girl, hold her as close as you can.”

No Bloodline to Rely On

”A daughter who marries out is like water that’s poured away.”
”The family’s belongings go to the younger brother and the older brother.”

Coercion

“That teacher told the child he has a long telescope that can reach into your house.”
”The child then goes out to buy ice cream.”
”In the kindergarten, the old man there says whoever wants to use the slide must let him touch them, and it hurts a lot.”
“Bank manager threatens a female employee with resignation to force her into a hotel room.”
Recent news about a PhD graduate being threatened.

Not Only Afraid of Ghosts at Night

”Girl in a short skirt was raped while jogging at night.”
”Woman walking alone at night was followed by a man; when she rejected his advances, he beat her up.”

Fear of Enclosed Spaces

”In the past four years, Didi has had at least 50 cases; all 53 victims were women.”
”A mother in Hangzhou took her child to the hospital and was groped by an elderly man in the elevator.”
”A subway camera secretly filmed a girl’s skirt.”

Treated as Inferior at Home

”In a family of four, three people beat her.”
”One of the quadruplets’ older sisters sleeps in the kitchen.”
”During an argument over their daughter’s college applications, the husband beat his wife, rupturing the left eardrum; the daughter’s palm was stitched with three stitches.”

Marriage

”My mother keeps telling me that only after marriage am I a complete woman; I should find someone to marry soon.”
Police report on a vulgar wedding disturbance in Shunde.
Several groomsmen either hugged Liu Yan’s waist or her leg, intending to throw her into the water.
”I don’t want to lose her. I love her so much, I’m afraid she’ll cheat, I don’t want the child to be motherless, disabled, or unloved by other men.” (Man cuts off his wife’s hand with a knife)
”Hurting strangers deserves punishment; why shouldn’t it be the same at home? A marriage certificate is not a crime permit.”
Every year in China, 157,000 women commit suicide, 60% of which are due to domestic violence.
”When the child was still in the womb, my husband and his family kept urging me to quit my job and become a full‑time mother.”
Full‑time mothers who are not financially independent have extremely low status in the family, and such households have a very high divorce rate.

Social Discipline & Stereotypes

Textbook from Longhua District, Shenzhen, on puberty: “What kind of girls do boys like?” …
”During puberty I was once called fat by boys, which made Ms. Chen feel inferior; over time she turned to anorexia as an outlet.” (Anorexia has a very high mortality rate)
”Girls are naturally weak.” (Isn’t this a result of disciplinary pressure to be gentle and considerate?)
”It’s enough if a girl can achieve this level.” (Why?)
”Girls are just bad at science.” (Fact: the more economically developed and egalitarian a society is, the smaller the gender gap in science scores.)

Fear of Being Attractive

”A female lawyer in Nanchang was murdered because she was beautiful, so the perpetrator chose her as a “ghost spouse.””

Employment Opportunities & Independence

A few years ago I talked with a senior student from XJTU’s mechanical department; she was top of the class. A well‑known factory didn’t hire her, yet a male student who barely studied got the job.

The law mandates paid maternity leave but does not prohibit discriminatory hiring. Consequently, many companies, to avoid the economic loss and legal risk of maternity leave, require female applicants to state “no intention of having children in the long term.” Companies that truly avoid gender discrimination face higher labor costs and a greater risk of bankruptcy; even when they exist, they are driven out by inferior competitors.

Fear of Speaking Out, Fear of Silence

UN Women statistics show that at least 35  of women worldwide have experienced physical or sexual violence, with some countries reporting rates as high as 70 . Yet many respondents remain silent in anonymous surveys, so questionnaires must be carefully designed to uncover inconsistent contradictions.

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Why post this?

I have never felt the anxieties mentioned above, and I never actively paid attention to them in the past.

I can always sense my ex‑girlfriend’s fear. Being kind to her also makes her feel scared, which I have never understood.
My current rough understanding is that the social environment makes women instinctively fear short skirts, fear loved ones, fear pretty flowers, and fear pursuing and accepting everything “good.” Different people just experience these fears to varying degrees.

Without a truly equal environment, equal dialogue cannot arise, let alone talk about genuine love.
The love we feel is at most a fleeting and imperfect shadow.

Who are the victims of inequality?

Both men and women
It is easy to understand women as victims.
Why are men also victims?

  1. Economic perspective – The Other Half of the Sky mentions that in regions where economic restrictions and discrimination against women have been lifted (some parts of South Asia and Africa), women drink less alcohol and invest more in children and education. Because of the release of total factor productivity, the economic growth rate undergoes a qualitative change.

  2. An unequal world has no love

Who are the perpetrators of inequality?

Both men and women
Human behavior is driven by one’s perception of the world.
In places with a strong social consensus, regardless of gender, the older one is and the higher the degree of socialization, the more entrenched the behavior.

The Other Half of the Sky also notes that in backward regions, women’s involvement in trafficking, violent coercion, and sexual coercion of other women is not lower than men’s. Mothers in India may even think that a daughter who has been sexually assaulted should “honor‑kill” herself.

It is not a matter of men discriminating against women more, nor women discriminating against men more; what exists is discrimination against women by everyone. The victims are everyone.

Sin is not the sin of a particular person or gender, but the sin of social consciousness. This can only be changed by changing culture.

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Many examples come from video clips
https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1jJ411L7KG/

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Family Planning Not Only Leads to a Population Decline Cliff

China began implementing family planning in the early 1980s. A popular view holds that this policy has caused a gender imbalance in China. According to this view, family planning encourages prospective parents who prefer sons to conduct prenatal sex determination, and if they discover they are carrying a girl, they choose to abort.

Analysis of the 2000 census data found that among the first children born to surveyed families, boys accounted for 51.5%. Among families whose first child was a daughter, the proportion of boys in the second child rose to 62%—a markedly abnormal high rate. For families that had two daughters, the proportion of boys in the third child was as high as 70%.

Students who have studied probability theory know how to use independence of events and conditional probability to explain the above data.

Higher Education Does Not Necessarily Mean Greater Equality

A 2014 survey showed that, compared with women who had not received formal schooling, 7.4% of Chinese women with higher education were more likely to have a boy as their second child. A

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Support the legal provision that both men and women can take maternity leave, thereby eliminating workplace discrimination.

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The original poster is being a bit extreme… Among the examples given, 2/5 are extreme cases that would only appear in heavily son‑preferential families, another 2/5 have a special historical background, and only 1/5 actually occur in today’s society (job hunting, etc.). In fact, many items can happen to people of any gender.

The extreme output makes the above argument meaningless. According to your list, I could also list things like “What a man lives his whole life fearing”, “What LGBT people live their whole life fearing”, and so on.

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Humor upstairs, just check the newborn gender ratio and you’ll know how many so‑called “extremely son‑preferential families” that would abort female fetuses there are.

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You are out. It’s all anonymous bros, :male_sign: vs :female_sign:, win vs lose, straight vs rainbow, can continue the bamboo‑hat old man’s rhyme.

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Your site is dead, the admin just deletes posts that disagree.

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But the probabilities differ. For example, minors, women, and men can all be raped, but obviously minors have a higher likelihood of being victimized, so raping a minor is punished more severely than raping a woman, and raping a man is not even listed in the law.

Let me share my superficial understanding. The United States has introduced this line of thinking into other areas. The premise is that “we assume minority groups are inherently a bit weaker than the majority and experience more social oppression during their upbringing,” so in job hunting, elections, and various other fields, if a minority individual is roughly at the same level as a majority individual, or even slightly lower, we consider that

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Women have many more things to fear in their lives than this, such as when you are alone facing a man who is stronger than you, walking alone at night, or being with a group of exuberant men; you will actually face more danger and feel a greater threat.

Gay men should treat lesbian women more gently. Some feelings are hard for you to relate, making it difficult to understand; you need to be more cautious and pay attention to your behavior.

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I don’t know what’s funny.

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Girls think that when they are treated unfairly, they should fight for equality themselves, rather than having others treat them differently. This is an example of my “weak but justified”

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Close the topic, feels :door: is going to become a trash can :wastebasket::downcast_face_with_sweat:

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There are two kinds of differential treatment: one is the negative one caused by backward social consensus, and the other is the positive one brought by institutional guarantees.
If you want to eliminate the latter, you must set aside your arrogance and eliminate the former.

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Basically all are 21st‑century news, having grown up immersed in such an environment; every day is a special era
It can happen to people of any gender, but the data shows a stark disparity in proportion.

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Door is a place for people to speak.
One can’t just call what others say garbage just because it doesn’t suit one’s own wishes.

Gender topics are an eternal controversial subject, because a group of people want to expand their own interests in a zero‑sum situation, inevitably causing ideological conflict.

And ideological conflict is precisely where wisdom arises.

I personally believe that the current Door members have the ability to comment on this topic while adhering to the most basic conditions of the community guidelines, and that moderators have the ability to uphold this recognition at the most basic level.

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And share some academic viewpoints I have learned.
The issue of gender conflict, as a social hotspot, inevitably involves related social science research. Regarding the “missing girls” problem frequently mentioned by the first few forum members, there are also some influential articles that have emerged.

The phenomenon of missing girls does not only appear at the “birth‑to‑death” stage; it is a societal phenomenon that spreads throughout the entire process—from natural sex ratios to selective abortion to under‑reporting/mis‑reporting/delayed household registration.

I still hope that everyone, as university students primarily in science and engineering, who are at least in the top 1 % among peers, will at least conduct some investigations first, and not speak out loudly based on intuition and “personal statistics”.

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Objective data compares the economic participation and opportunities, as well as healthcare, education, security, and administrative participation across different genders.
China, Japan, and South Korea are all at the bottom; Japan ranks even lower than China, close to the bottom worldwide.
This cannot be solved merely by economic development.

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Many replies above indicate that science and engineering schools have produced a batch of era cogs lacking scientific spirit and empirical research ability.

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