- Not aware of the need
- Aware that it’s not needed
- Want to look for it but don’t dare
- Want to look for it but can’t find it
- Busy with study and life
- Fear being separated in the future
- Others can be added in the comments section
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What is your purpose in asking this?
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Can someone like me, who has spent a whole semester saying to girls the most frequent line “Classmate, move aside, I need to get through,” really find a partner?
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Kids have everything in their dreams
All you need is a good pillow
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Our lives are destined to be full of vicissitudes~
Why don’t you apply to Tsinghua or Peking University for your bachelor’s, is it because you don’t want to?
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Class barrier
Afraid that I can’t give the other person enough emotion, affection, and romantic value, and my own life is a tangled mess, making it hard to truly have a relationship. Without a serious attitude toward love, it’s better not to start; unable to find a partner, and lacking the material foundation to support love 
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Right, mainly I also don’t really want to rely on my parents for a material foundation. If we really talk about it, we should rely on ourselves to give the other person a relatively decent and comfortable life, but right now I have zero income 
us-marriages-divorces-1867-2023.csv (2.8 KB)
- Data comes from multiple sources stitched together
- Some years’ data are missing, simple interpolation performed
- Some years have different statistical scopes
Being able to clearly recognize one’s own character flaws and believing that dating is irresponsible toward the other person. Even if one longs for a soulmate with a deep connection, one actively avoids creating such opportunities.
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I think the main problem is that there is no theoretical basis supporting love.
It means I cannot understand why love should exist.
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Why don’t you look for a partner with personality flaws?
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Generally there are two problems:
- People with personality defects, in order to survive, usually construct a false exterior, which is hard for the outside world to discern.
- Even if fortunate enough to understand each other, it is impossible to predict whether they will accept each other or torment each other.
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There are also experts 
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We typical call this a Toxic Couple,that is,a couple locked in mutual torment
The notion that individuals with certain “personality flaws” should simply pair off with others possessing complementary defects—as if spouse-finding were a matter of mechanically matching convex and concave structures—is both baffling and ridiculous .Such thinking reduces human relationships to the logic of a jigsaw puzzle, presuming that each flaw can be counterbalanced by an opposite, thus producing some perfect, harmonious fit. Yet this view overlooks a fundamental truth: people do not merely occlude , they react . When two individuals with equally destructive tendencies come together, the outcome is rarely complementary. More often, their flaws collide and compound, setting off a spiral of mutual torment and recrimination. The ideal of perfect mechanical pairing collapses, replaced by the all-too-human reality of emotional escalation and dysfunction—a scenario that, far from resolving individual wounds, magnifies them into some of the most painful entanglements humanity can produce.
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In fact, people with personality flaws are not suitable for dating anyone. Maintaining a genuine and high‑quality relationship has a threshold, requiring a certain level of personal cultivation and morality.